What keeps us from being centred, calm and peaceful? Is the crisis outside or inside of us? And how do we keep calm in a crisis when there's nothing to hold onto anymore?
Are you reaching for something? Or letting something go?
How To Keep A Calm Mind
Step 1 - Identification
What keeps you from being centred, calm and peaceful? Which situations provoke stressful reactions? Who in your life is a negative influence? Is that person you?
Before we can ever live a calm and peaceful life, we must identify which areas cause us stress. By identifying the causes of our troubles, we can then begin to manage our reactions to them once we know what we are reacting to.
But even before identifying a cause we must be willing to ask some deep internal questions. Looking back and re-playing old events, re-listening to old conversations and seeing which parts were triggered, we can begin to see which parts we are still carrying and then look into ways to transform and alchemise them into a positive change, before they trigger us again.
What is a crisis?
A crisis by nature is something we have no control over. If you have danced in the unknown before and are familiar and comfortable with not needing to know answers, you are probably very at ease in a crisis. But for those who like to feel some control, to know what's around the corner and find peace in order and structure, a crisis can be very unsettling.
There are two kinds of crisis's that can occur. There are the ones outside of ourselves where things start to fall apart - we can lose our job, our relationship might end, a loved one might die or a natural disaster may occur. For this we know the cause and can begin, how painfully, to move forward.
Then there are the internal crisis's where a death of an old self is occurring. This process can sometimes look out of control, irrational, scary, hallucinogenic, painful or even liberating. This is the souls calling.
Every death leads to a re-birth of sorts and the ones who emerge out of an internal crisis often come back more lucid, more free and more open.
A crisis is an opportunity presenting itself in the way of change. It's never the strongest who survive, it's those able to adapt.
Change invites us to re-consider, to re-evaluate and to re-think what has been before to seek out new solutions & new beginnings.
Only when we identify with a cause to our unhappiness can we transform it. We might then change our job that we never really liked, leave our relationship knowing that it's best days belong to the past or take control of our lives by changing the way we feel each day.
Are you reaching for something? Or are you letting go? Can you be unattached to the outcome of both?
What can I do to find peace?
There are 3 simple ways to begin:
By focusing on either one of these 3 areas leads to a knock on effect which inevitably brings peace to all areas of our being.
In a world predominantly focused on thinking and producing, we can find ourselves in the mind a lot. One way to come out of the mind to focus on the body.
First, bring your awareness to your feet. Feel your feet touching the earth or the soles of your feet in your shoes. Gently lift your feet up and down and feel the interaction they have each time they touch the ground again.
Then feel your whole body moving all by its self. Feel the millions of electrical impulses happening simultaneously just to keep you upright. If you have blocked emotion that you can't shift, gently shake the body to release tension. You can even let go with a sound to further release any blocked tension that might remain.
By literally focussing on the area furthest away from the mind, we can shift our energy and use our feet to bring us into the body which grounds us into the present moment.
And if you're still feeling blocked, jump up and down and let your soles hit the floor with a flat base. Do some exercise, stretch, take a cold shower.
Whenever the mind is stressed, always bring your awareness down into your body. Your body holds the emotions from the mind and stores it within its cells. We can shift our mind to alter our body or we can move our body to shift our mental state.
If you're stuck in the mind, move your body first and let your mind feel the chemical change that's being produced.
Another way is to focus on the mind. There are a number of ways we can do this. We can become observant of our thoughts, letting them pass on a conveyer-like-belt, remaining unattached to what they are but allowing them to be seen and passed on.
Another way is to feel the sensations in the body. Scan your body by placing your attention on each part, then feel the sensation on that area. Then move on to the next, and the next, and the next.
If the mind is too gross and cannot focus on smaller areas, focus on larger areas like the entire arm, then feel a sensation on the arm before moving on to the next part of the body. With time, the mind will sharpen to be able to focus on smaller areas where sensations are happening in every moment.
Another way is to focus on your third eye, right behind your eyes in the middle of your forehead. Focus here either by placing your attention in the area or by thinking of a colour (often a white or purple light) and let that light shine brighter and brighter as the meditation goes on.
And if the mind is still too active to meditate peacefully, you can repeat a mantra internally, chant out loud or count up to 100 (or higher) to sharpen the mind and bring it into focus.
One other way that I love is listening to binaural beats or brainwave music. We have incredible technology all around us and brainwave music can drown out any outside noise by playing waves that resonate at different frequencies. I use it to calm my calm, find that still place within and drift away with the waves resonating along with my heart.
"Breath is the bridge that connects life to consciousness, which unites your body to your thoughts. Whenever your mind becomes scattered use your breath as the means to take hold of your mind again." - Thich Nhat Hanh
The breath belongs to the present moment, allowing life in and out each time we breathe.
In the present moment, judgements from the past or expectations for the future can no longer exist. So, in this moment, fear, anxiety and stress can no longer exist either. It is the cornerstone to peace and harmony within.
What is the quality of your breath?
Is it deep and slow? Quick and shallow? Fast and erratic?
How much of life do you willing to breathe in?
Simply observing each breath can give us tremendous insight into our mental state and by using this insight and learning how we function, we can begin to regulate our inner state of being to one that's calm, peaceful and centred.
We can use the breath as a bridge to communicate between our mind and our body. Becoming aware of its potential and by using each and every breath to bring us back into the present moment, we can begin to breathe more and more life into our existence.
It can be difficult at first, but then after some time, during a task or reading a book, your attention might shift to your breath for just a moment. It's in these moments that we are fully present to life itself.
There are many techniques from simply observing the breath to enhancing it's potential through holotropic breathwork, the Wim Hoff method or SOMA to name a few.
The benefits of breath work can be read more deeply in our SOMA page where we highlight the incredible health benefits it brings for both the body and the mind.
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There is no right or wrong way to find peace, to live harmoniously and to create the life you want to live. All roads lead to the kingdom within, some roads may just resonate a little more than others.
May All Beings Be Happy
May All Beings Be Peaceful
May All Beings Be Liberated.
Andy | Spirt Becoming